I sometimes now find it hard to walk down a street that holds. Im remember things I wish I would have done and several moments I wish I could have done better. Now in year two Im dealing with unresolved grief for my daughter and the emotions I pushed so far down are now bubbling to the surface. Right now, this moment, put away the baggage from the past, shake yourself free from the fear of the future unknown. On this day of mourning, you and your loved ones are in our thoughts. Im old. Jean was born on September 9, 1940 in Wabasha County to Arthur and Rachel (Kruger . We all know that with life there is death. Im so sorry J. I know that feeling of panic that you might forget something and lose it forever. Ive missed her terribly for two years. If I can last that long. Its hard for me to keep a job or any type of relationship. My spouse died suddenly also. Despite aggressive treatment, she passed away after 9 months at 59. If ever there was a time when we need to be setting realistic expectations for ourselves, then certainly our time of grieving is one of them. I feel like you do after my husband was murdered a year ago and then my beloved dog died. For me going into this second year is harder than the first because now I can really feel the loss. My deep faith in God has sustained me and believe me this is a work in progress. I hope you find what works for you, what helps get you through, what makes it bearable to be alive. It is definitely worse now than at the beginning, I was numb for a long time, but now i am exposed and raw, and I can cry for England. I left the hospital without my child and a shirt with all her blood on it. Perfect grades and many friends. I am 76 and my health seems OK but mentally I am a wreck. Im not sure if I feel better or worse, reading these stories! He died September 2016. I would fix it if I could but I now know deep down that I cant. . He was so close to me just like a little brother. I feel your pain .. -R, I feel so sad reading your story. Very first time I laid my eyes on my bf I was in love. I pray every single day and ask God to help me, not for me but for them. He, of course, was very good at taking care of us all when we were sick. Its been a year. We loved nothing more than simply being together. Some days I still feel so depressed he was my best friend. I finally went to the ER and ask what had happened, I was told that they were trying to helped him and the nurse asked me if there was anything happening or saw something on him the day before, I said nothing but our daily routine, then the ambulance came but left after a few minutes and I was told the ambulance was clean, I asked her what do you mean by clean? I am beyond guilty because I was the one to ask him to get the shot and it was because of me that he had been so weakened by that rare disease. Im grateful for the love and time I had with them and I try to look forward to the future for my daughter, All of my parents (mine and my husbands) are aging and sick. Its not easy. He was sitting straight up holding his soda and gone.The widow Maker., 58 years old we were together as freshman/sophmore since 1977 he was my soul mate confident best friend and lover. Sudden death is what they called it, his kind and gentle heart just stopped beating. "Love grows more tremendously full, swift, poignant, as the years multiply" - Zane Grey. At 4 days old she came into my life as a bottle baby, I fought so hard to keep her alive, she defied the odds for 27 months. Im grateful to have found a place to share our stories and grieve together. Often I would repeat No, No, No to the point where it began to be so compulsive that it worried me. We had problems for a while because of her addiction that she had struggle with for a few years from Pain medication and anxiety and other mental health medication. I lost my mom that I took care of for almost 5 yrs and I saw her take her last breathe and its been two yrs now and people act like should be over losing her and when all the people that have been lost this year from covid 19 its just reminds of what and how I lost her. As we approach our 24th wedding anniversary on 9 Nov, I yearn more and more for her. Sometimes I try to think about losing him so I can cry but the tears dont come and its eating me up inside. When he died the entire family was crushed especially our Mama. I just want to be gone too. She died of complications from a routine surgery, and from the time I took her to the ER until she died it was only 2 weeks. I try to filter the thoughts in my mind so as not to feel the pain. It is better than it was but there are days when the grayness and depression covers me like fog on a cloudy day. We had met and dated only three months before we were married. Mom now 80 and I looked after him. Most I am more alone in Han ever except for me little gang of adorable dogs. I have also lost my fear of flying since my husband died on November 14, 2018. I cry more and I need to shift from my lovely house. I missed Mike so much and felt guilty for his death as I had felt I should have been more responsive to Mikes medical condition. Required fields are marked *. My husband died suddenly, a little over two yrs ago. He was diagnosed with an advanced cancer and died less than a month after. And I dont apologise for these indulgences they are my medicine, my vitamins, my support. Were in the club that no one wants to join. You've opened my eyes to see what it all means. "A year without you has felt like an eternity. She did great for months until something unexpected killed her: Liver failure due to tumors. And waiting for u. Youll be ok. Keep watching the clouds. Then, I ended up getting sick from malnutrition. I have been an extra-ordinary minister of the Eucharist for 30 years and now have signed on to be a sacristan, a greeter, and deliver communion to our parish shut-ins. i pray ever for them i have not died yet but will. Patti, I once went to a counselor because I was like you constantly talking about the situation to anyone that would listen. This week I saw my daughter for the first time since he passed and now Im a wreck all over again. I appreciate being able to write my feelings down and my heart goes out to you all. l started walking with a group of people who have lost there partners over the last few years and its helped all of us to talk about our partners ,we go out to movies and shows as a group of 22 men and women in our 60 to 80s.All say the second year is the hardest,whats good about our a couple have hooked up and going strong by just being with someone . I really just hate living now. I lost my wife to cancer 22 months ago. Everything seems meaningless. It felt so good. Those who survive COVID-19 are often left with . I was numb the first year, but Know Its really hard. In the poignant track's lyrics, G-Eazy describes longing to reunite with someone in his dreams . FREE 15 minute consults available to www.griefincommon.com members. The pain is immense, there is no recipe or road map for this and most of no quick fix. Occassionally it makes me actually sick. Going to church hurts, even though it is suppose to be a healing place, we spent a lot of time together up there. I watch other couples even older than us, and wonder WHY? Suddenly my husband developed a cough and a month later he was dead of lung cancer. Never would I have thought that things were going to happen the way they did. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. It still hurts and i wish it didnt. And tonight I'll fall asleep with you in my heart. 2 and half months without seeing her smile and hearing her voice pains me a lot and now the thought of not growing up with her kills me 1 minute at a time. I hope that all of us find a peace and it may not be till we cross to the other side and find the loves of our lives waiting there on us. Please stay strong and know that youre not alone. These powerful first-person stories explore . The dr gave be sleeping tabs to get my body /mind back i to sleepmode . She lived with me & my husband after my brother passed & I had to watch her suffer & die. Sounds like me. Im in a stage where Im desperatly trying to remember everything about the time we had together. I lost my beautiful wife to colorectal cancer on Valentines Day 2020. I feel that while I will always miss my best friend and suffer great loss and sadness over her death, this home is a tomb of artifacts for me. And I mean nothing makes me happy anymore. I felt relieved when he passed away, because I know he's not hurting anymore. This helped me a lot. This is the second year, and as it got near to his birthdate, it hurts just as badly as last year, if not worse. Thirty years after I left school I met up with a group I'd been in the sixth form with that I'd not seen since I left - now we see each other every few months. Nellie, Im so sorry that we have to have these losses as a connection. Its my grief, not theirs. Worse even if you can believe it. And lots of shipwrecks. Thanks to all that spoke about their feelings of a great loss. Worst thing Ive ever gone through. Robin. My family is great but they are grieving also. I lost my husband of 46 years , on our anniversary, just wam, bam out of the blue in summer of 2016. ========================. I did not understand that we had such a deeper connection than others may have. Never to forget what you hadnever, never, never! I am very bitter Had a letter from Hospital admitting neglect but I havnt got my Husband the love of my life, I am struggling to get on with my life but its so hard as it is for everyone on this forum, We no longer live we exist, Pam xx. Her smile and laugh and crazy hair. I can barely function and go on. But he makes me so happy he loves me he so generous so kind hes just everything I want. Changes in feeding times or even simply moving furniture around can cause further stress. I finally was able to pick myself up off the floor one day not ong after that and I decided to take my life back. What if he knew he was sick and just didnt want me to know? She battled stage 4-5 cancer for fourteen years. My God what if I do get into those 80s? Ive felt lonely and sometimes I dont know how to cope with the loss and pain. I still feel completely ruined. I have tried to be strong, to work through the loss, taken on a healthier lifestyle, spend time with friends, dress up and put on my makeup, work hard yet I am left feeling empty. Reality for me says it will never completely subside. But I never did. I read a lot about near death experiences and it has helped a little bit. Its true, I feel relief reading similar experiences. Idk what to do anymore. God Bless and Congratulations on your educational pursuits. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Rnyqe1XiP0. Then reality hits home so hard in the gut, I found my self holding back the tears because one I was pregnant with my 3rd son and second I didnt. Forgive yourself. He died from septic shock brought on from diverticulitis in a little over 30 hours. He was my first love. I do have friends and church family that will not allow me to stay inside for very long. Thank you for your thoughts. It would be rather strange if you did and I think that is so true. Sending love and hugs to you all put there. How do I start to heal? Dear Patricia, Thankyou for sharing. My wife passed away just over 2 yrs ago. He was my heart and it was only 4 years and 7 months but he was my everything. document.getElementById( "ak_js" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); *DAYTIME AND EVENING GENERAL GRIEF GROUPS AVAILABLE EVERY WEEK*. The memories we've made will go on and on. I am now alone . I cant begin to describe how heartbroken I am and the second year is the toughest. its been 18 months since i lost my mum. Courtesy Marisa Renee Lee. Just stay out of my life Im going to do what I want to do I am in love I am happy he loves me just leave me alone and let me have a life. Perhaps- try some see a doctor about taking some thing mild to help you sleep but avoid dependence on sleep aids. The 1 year anniversary of his death is in a couple days. It is very hard to look at all these people in the face and lie with a smile on your face, telling them that youre okay.. Please do not do that. Nugget was my first dog - a quirky, neurotic Japanese Spitz who passed away 6months ago. Died. Then my son came to mind, he was having fun with his dad before he left for a walked, now hell wake up without him. I sobbed daily for two months. My heart goes out to all of those who have left comments in this thread. I have come to realize for myself that I ultimately need to move rid myself of too many artifacts of our life. Get a love spell to win your ex lover back with the help of Lord Zakuza. Today is the one year mark of my fathers passing and i can honestly say im no closer today than a year ago to finding any relief from the heartache i have felt since he left us. Urban. It . That was a good process because it helped me to HOPE that my grief would abate. Everything seems pointless now after being married for 44 years and now sitting alone. My first year I believe I was totally in shock and family members kept me busy. Not forgetting, blending them together. I know you will make the right decision what to do about your future. he asked me in a parting note not to forget him, or my other brother who died in 2018 or my parents who went before. He never opened his eyes. Im more insular now and dad wouldnt want that I know but Ive slways been a bit one bitten twice shy. My best friend's mother had passed away. He lived with leukaemia for 7 years and it was being managed and seemed to be doing well. Such strength. I try and fill my time, but would rather be hold up in my house and not face the world. TERRI..It is 13 months and 20 days since my soul mate died..yesterday in work I felt truly happy for the first time since he died..it is 10pm today and the whole day has bee one of the worst..I have two dogs so I hide away ..put my head down on my arms and cry so they cant hear me.I work full time so am OK in work but I am so lonely without him..my children are interstate..along with my bestie of 50 years.I have no close friends outside of work..I make an effort to go out and socialize but am surrounded by couples..so come home as I miss him even more..if it werent for my two dogs I wouldnt be hereI dont know how much longer I can live live thisI have told no ome else how close I am to ending my own life..this lasses but right now the urge is overwhelming me..thanks for reading..if you doI am writing to you as you have the most recent post.. Ann.. People told me after the first year it would get better. I miss him every day. Now, its almost at the 2 year mark. I lost my only child june3rd 2017 she was 22 from heroin I found her I do not want to live she was my only reason for living she was my life. I hope you have survived you thoughts of taking you life. YouTube A body from the Dyatlov Pass incident. Killing yourself is not going to bring your husband back nor is it going to help the ones you leave behind, we all have to travel this route that is a fact. I just come home and enjoy the dogs and just survive the day. We were married 23 years. i am thankful for ever day . Many of the people I work with are several years past their loss and are struggling with confidence and decision making. Somehow, I feel I must leave in order to build a new life while at the same time I am afraid to leave the remnants of our life shared. My husband lived only 6mos after drs found CNS lymphoma in his brain. For me going on this second year is harder than the first because now I can really feel the lose. Short-term memory helps babies track objects. Theres no point to anything and Im not the mum I used to be. I too want it to end. A white feather flew into my hand out oof the blue. I feel disconnected most of the time but I am getting glimpses of myself outside of grief or with making friends with my grief and my life. So when he got sick I was always there for him. I used to be the life of the party but that person is gone. Some days are better than others. Use the DATEDIF function when you want to calculate the difference between two dates. I lost my wife on December 2017 to cancer. We had a great marriage and we were grateful for all the years we had. I always wonder if this normal. She deserves a life filled with hope and happy times. He was another father/brother figure for me and we were inseparable. I try to be positive and move forward. I just dont want to do anything. Yes, the 2nd year seems much worse. I wonder if it will ever get better. I was a young 54, when he was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer (non smoker). I was with my husband for 45 years of my life. You may feel numb, shocked, and fearful. I was told by a nurse in hospice to sit with him and let him know Id be alright if he left. Its somehow soothing to see some of my blurry thoughts in writing. I feel ache all over my body. I watched him wither away. Such as giving a lot of her things away, doing things I enjoy and now because I have decided to move to Washington, which I currently live in Ft Worth Texas. Rest in peace dad." "Our love for you is as strong as ever, Dad. no one understands and I often find myself pretending to others everything is fine. I had been married to him since I was 16 years old. The last few years have been a blur of trauma and sadness. So now that you're gone, how can I forget; I keep begging Stephen to come back,I scream at him. Time helps but its not a healer it helps you learn how to deal with your loss and acceptance helps a lot. It's just me & my 6 year old son now. In this second year, I am torn between selling our home and moving (where I do not know). I hate that people talk about it as a loss like divorce or getting laid off. We try to support each other. "Time flies, whether you're wasting it or not.". He left behind a 5 year old boy. Blurry. I never imagined I would grieve so hard. The loss of a special animal companion can leave devastating heartache and most people will suffer in silence out of fear of not being taken seriously just because the loss was not a human loss. Maybe I am afraid that I would one day forget the sound of my dads voice, his smiles and stories. I was ok for awhile but all the sudden its hitting me like a brick wall. I have our two dogs (my puppies that keep me going). But, as Kevorkian explains, you will begin to heal over time, which will make your grief more bearable. A time we could have reconnected and had some fun after working all these years for that goal. We struggled to get answers until she was diagnosed with an extremely rare brain disease. Especially when retirement is in the near future. Im living for him as well. is worse the waves of gut wrenching And I cant move on. I lost my forever unexpectedly 19 month ago, after 32 years of marriage. My husband died 16 months ago. Working and struggling just to make the next meal. It was discovered that he had Guianne Barre disease that has been proven to be caused by this shot. - Unknown. That helps . The first year was the hardest woke up crying and fell asleep crying. I sat with her for 3 hours, waiting until her last breath, saying goodbye. I do have some hope to give you. One of the other time not so pleasant with her saying what are you going to do now I just know that no matter what happened in our lives good or bad is that I Love her and miss her so much and i now realize how much she Loved myself and her children after finding letters that she has written over the years telling us how much she Loved us and how much she wanted to get better and how much she wanted her family back. They always say it will get better. Went to grief group, it helped a little, but like you at the end of the day your still alone. As if you couldnt have loved him or her as less than a mother or father or a wife. talk about your feelings with out your child hearing but talk to your child about their feelings because that child is hurting real bad too. My younger brother spent his birthday on our sisters funeral. What happened to me ( Im 16 months in) was I have not had a nights sleep for weeks ,looking after my partner. We were together and married for almost 42 years. It starts like a small fire being ignited in the pit of my stomach that begins to swell and push upward. In 2016 diagnosed stage 4 cancer in July Dr said aggressive cancer and he wont see Christmas, I couldnt breathe or talk I felt numb. We got so close over the years, I cant bear being without him. He is always with me! That actually happened a few times 2 of which seemed very real. I lost the love of my life 13 months ago, suddenly of lung fibrosis. I bring a chair to sit and just stare at the ground. We started a church 8 years ago with a small group of people and our lives were filled with helping others and spending time with our kids & grandkids. Praying for us all. But for now, that seems unlikely because when I dare to look out, all I see is the hazy, drab-blue sameness an endless ocean. I can talk about her normally without crying and the quiet and loneliness is deafening. I pray, I go to church and lay in my husbands arms but still no relief. If I were writing a book for mourners, thats how Id likely end it: Your dearly departed would want nothing less for you! So far, however, figuring out how to even begin thinking like that just seems way too hard and complicated. He was also my husband`s best friend but he seems to be coping better than I. I do not like to talk about my grief very much to other members of the family as I feel they will think I should be moving forward. It has been a roller coaster of emotions and challenges to my health and mental wellness. So thank you for all the sharing here. We had such a good relationship as Im sure yours was. I just retired early at 64 we bought a retirement home to be near daughter and grandchild. married for nearly 35 years and even though I have a Miss you dad! Do not look for it, you already have it. She never loved anyone like I did my husband, and cannot fathom why I am still grieving after all he was a very sick man and he just couldnt have lasted longer. I am an adult orphan now. By 4 months old, your baby can remember that your face has disappeared when you play peek-a-boo, or that a ball has rolled out of sight. I think that people mean well.
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